Healing from Big 'T' and Little 't' Trauma
“Trauma robs you of the feeling that you are in charge of yourself…The challenge of recovery is to reestablish ownership of your body and your mind - of your self.” Bessel van der Kolk
Trauma is a complex and often misunderstood aspect of human experience. Traditionally, we've associated trauma with dramatic events such as natural disasters, war, or severe accidents – what experts refer to as "Big 'T' Trauma." However, contemporary research and the work of experts like Gabor Maté and Bessel van der Kolk have shed light on the equally significant impact of "Little 't' Trauma" – less obvious but equally damaging experiences that can haunt us throughout our lives. We'll explore the concepts of Big 'T' and Little 't' trauma, and how working with a life coach can be a vital part of the healing journey.
Understanding Big 'T' Trauma
Big 'T' Trauma typically refers to major life events that pose an immediate threat to one's physical or emotional well-being. Examples include war, sexual assault, severe accidents, or natural disasters. These experiences can have profound and lasting effects on an individual's mental health, often leading to conditions like post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, a renowned trauma expert, emphasizes that Big 'T' Trauma can alter the way the brain processes information and emotions. It can leave a person feeling chronically unsafe and trigger distressing symptoms such as flashbacks, nightmares, and severe anxiety.
Little 't' trauma: The Silent Struggles
Little 't' trauma, on the other hand, encompasses subtle but recurrent stressors that accumulate over time. These may include emotional neglect, childhood emotional abuse, bullying, or growing up in a dysfunctional family environment. Gabor Maté, a physician and author, highlights that Little 't' Trauma can be equally harmful, as it erodes one's sense of self-worth and safety.
Little 't' trauma often goes unrecognized, as its effects can be subtle and insidious. It can manifest as chronic anxiety, low self-esteem, or difficulties in forming healthy relationships. People may not always connect their struggles to past experiences, making it crucial to explore these hidden wounds.
The Role of Life Coaching in Healing Traum
Working with a trauma-informed transformative coach can be instrumental in the healing process, whether one has experienced Big 'T' or Little 't' Trauma. Here's how:
Creating a Safe Space: I provide a safe and non-judgmental space for you to explore their experiences. This is especially important for individuals who may be hesitant to share their trauma with others.
Identifying Patterns: I can help you recognise recurring patterns in their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that may be rooted in past trauma. This awareness is a crucial first step toward healing.
Building Resilience: I can assist you in developing coping strategies and resilience to manage the impact of trauma. This may involve mindfulness techniques, stress management, or setting healthy boundaries.
Setting Goals and Moving Forward: Trauma can be paralyzing, causing individuals to feel stuck in life. I can help you set meaningful goals and create a roadmap for moving forward, empowering you to reclaim your life.
Fostering Self-Compassion: Both Maté and van der Kolk emphasize the importance of self-compassion in healing trauma. I can support you in developing self-compassion practices that promote self-acceptance and self-love.
In conclusion, trauma is not limited to the dramatic events we often associate with it. Big 'T' and Little 't' trauma can both have profound effects on our well-being. The work of experts like Gabor Maté and Bessel van der Kolk has expanded our understanding of these experiences. When combined with my support, individuals can embark on a transformative journey towards healing, growth, and resilience, ultimately reclaiming their lives from the shadows of their past.
